Life really is never ending...and challenges never seize to stop perculating. Especially in India where everything is age and time bound. You have to be in a good job before u reach a marriageable age!! And when I think of the amount of break ups I see around me I think part of it is because of the way youngsters are pushed into getting married when they aren't quite prepared for what it entails...the question therefore is what does an engagement, a marriage really entail...? tough question...well to begin with I think one needs to be mentally prepared and well aware of what these relationships really mean.
You know one works very hard in life to find stability....that perfect balance and all that follows in life needs to fit into that very balance.
I see so many couples walk into engagements and marriages when they aren't even ready yet to be able to take care of themselves. Financial independance is extremely important, to be happy at work is very essential. You see when you plan to tie the knot you need to know that you have the ability to be able to 'provide' when required and to be able to nurture each other and grow minus the stress and anxiety that we see all around us.
The person you choose to live with should epitomize life and what it embodies....someone you can grow old with and still not ever shy away from, someone you want to build your world with....its a very special place. That somebody is meant to take on an importance that is even bigger than your own parents...someone you will always hold fort for....And believe me when you are ready....YOU JUST KNOW....I used to always wonder what it would feel like....When would I know.....And it comes with the confidence you get when you are independant, supporting yourself, fighting that battle of life in the big bad world called the 'INDUSTRY' and most importantly....WINNING THE BATTLE.
As I have stated in my earlier posts, it isn't just a process of doing, but a process of self learning where one has to teach one's own self how to not just adapt but really mould one's self to be able to create for a world that you can share yourself with. We are so caught up in our work, in our life, in our problems that we never have the time for the other.
A partner is an extension of your life, why then do we look at her with such bewilderment? This is because when you are not prepared you are not transparent, you do not have the ability to be transparent and that is extremely unfair to your partner.
One must plan one's life, every step of the way. the engagement, the marriage, the child, the lifestyle...it all requires planning. Never jump into the river if you cannot swim....you will drown.
Approach life with care and compassion not just for yourself but for those around you. Be selfless and have the ability to look at the larger picture called life. Be loving and compassionate to those around you fore you will yearn and wish you had when they are gone...
Till I blog again....
